Dorothy called at 6:15 right on time, we had just spent the day together and celebrated a birthday. But, she did not remember. It’s sundowners time- and nothing can stop it. I was still at my brothers and I answered the phone- put her on speaker and the routine started. Paul, listened for a few minutes, then looked at me and asked me how I did it. How do you listen to that every night? I explained to him that listening to her is sort of like a husband listens to his wife in the funny papers- LOL. Instead of nodding every once in a while- I will say something to her- to let her know I’m still there. All she needs is someone to listen to her in that moment.
I will admit when she got to the part in her song about the neighbors saying she was having inapproiate behavior – I stopped talking and told him I wanted to see if it was the eggs, beans or corn- that she was going to talk about tonight. We laughed (we could of cried-but why?) we she said beans.
Her song was loud and long tonight- I cut her off after 21 minutes and told her I’d have to call her back.
She called back 10 minutes later- not knowing that she just hung up.
This is a weird disease. )-: Just remember it’s not them- and just do what you can.
Peace & Love,
Cheryl Doreen
Dorothy's Dementia 