Last Friday I got Dorothy and did not want to get her out in the hustle and bustle of the Holiday Season, so- I thought we could make cookies. I figured she would be able to measure out the ingredients without a problem. Wrong! She struggled to count out 2 cups of sugar. I did not make a big deal out of it- why would I? It’s ok. So, I went into grandma mode and I responded just like I would to one of my grandsons. When I’m in this mode with mom I try not let her know I’m treating her like a “little kid”. Sometimes I’m successful and sometimes I’m not- this day I was successful. Too bad no one was around to videotape it- we could have recorded our first “Cooking with Dementia” video. I had all the soup bowls out on the counter and the kitchen looked just like a cooking set.
Dorothy was precise and focused -in the moment- while filling the measuring cups to full- then confused- she would ask what she needed to do next. I was a patient instructor recalling the times in the past when we would make fudge or jelly together. I must admit, there were a few tears rolling down my cheek- as they are now as I write this.
It’s interesting how a lived life comes back around- and it’s a good thing that they do- now I have memories of the circle- mom teaching me, us doing it together and me helping her.
I finished making the cookies and mom “cleaned up” the mess. LOL, she did this like a little one would do – not quite clean dishes. LOL
After the cookies were made, I made us some lunch. I asked mom if she wanted a cookie for dessert and she said yes, after taking a bite she said to me “These are really good Cheryl, did you make them?” Sigh. !!!……. I smiled at her and told her that I did.
It’s a shame that dementia takes our loved ones to a place we cannot understand. It sucks! But, I’m glad I’m able to walk with mom through this journey of hers. I pray it will be a short walk for her.
Enjoy the cookies in life!
Peace & Love,